I'm the mom that wrote in a post about 2 weeks ago concerning an incident with my son and a toy. (Refer to Dominicks, June 27). Well, it happened again. I was at a grocery store with my son and he wanted me to buy doughnuts. I told him I would as a treat because he had been doing so well. I like to occasionally reward my child, but don't make it a habit to buy him everything he asks for, hence my rant about the toy. So my son, being a typical 6 y.o., got a little excited and danced a jig around the little doughnut display. It lasted all of 10 seconds, but another lady approached my son and told him that he needed to behave. My son looked up at me quizzically, like, "what did I do wrong?". She then bent down into my sons face and told him that he shouldn't be "dancing all over the store", and that he "better mind his mommy". I was floored! I took my son by the hand and led him away .... telling him that he was fine, and he didn't do anything wrong. My question is, why do "strangers" find it o.k. to "parent" my child? This has happened quite a few times, and I am sick of it. I am not so deluded that I think my child is perfect, but he is very well behaved. I can't seem to win. I am either too nice, or too mean. I don't think I am either .... I happen to believe I am a good and fair mom. But I am also left feeling insulted that they offer this unsolicited advice. Why do people do this? I would never dream of approaching another parent and telling them what to do. Maybe someone can offer advice on how to respond to these rude people. No flames, please.
Received Sunday, July 8, 2007/Rant
Last week the one year old I nanny for and I went to Starbucks to buy a cookie (a rare treat, have permission). While paying I put the boy on the counter and held onto him, gave the cashier the money and picked the boy back up. We then did the same thing at the napkin counter.A lady came up to me and said "If I tell you something will you not get mad?" I was confused and said "Ok". Then she went on to scold me how I shouldn't put the boy up like that because he could end up in the emergency room.I had no idea how to comment and was shocked at her nerve! He wasn't up there that long and I never left him. I always had a strong grip on his torso, and was literally standing right in front of him. I just told her "thank you" and left. I had no idea what else to say (although I was tempted to remind her that she left her children unattended to tell me this!), and also thought she came up to me because it's obvious I'm his nanny (I'm AA and he's a PALE white baby :).My question is how do you handle when other people try to give you "advice"?
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