Received Saturday, December 27, 2008
I recently started a new position with a family with a 9 year old girl and a 3 month old baby girl. The older girl is in school most of day so my duties are 95% with the baby. The mother is returning to work January 12th. I have been here 5 hours a day since the start of December and will be full time as of Moms first day of work.
Here's the problem. The baby hates..I mean screams, wails and shakes when attempting bottle feeding. Mom is breast feeding, pumps, and plans to continue for a year.
I have tried every method, position, 4 different nipple types..no success at all. She either wails till she falls asleep from exhaustion or Mom comes home and nurses her. Even if she misses a meal, she will awake, be fine, then start wailing when she realizes she's hungry. Its been a month now and not even a speck of progress. I am dreading the day Mom goes to work. She seems unconcerned and says baby will adjust after she's away 8-10 hours a day.
I have been a nanny to 3 other infants in the last 8 years, never seen anything like this. I had no problems with any of the other three babies. I've read online that some never will take a bottle and go directly to sippy cups etc. Anyone ever had experience with this?? I am very anxious for Baby number one..and myself number two, dreading hours of wailing. Baby likes me otherwise, she smiles, cuddles with me, sleeps on me for naps, we play and she giggles..but the second the bottle appears...her face screws up and she turns beet red and the screaming starts.
This is a lovely family and I want to stay, but I'm starting to get the vibe they think its me..not the bottle Baby doesn't like, even though she reacts the same to a bottle from Dad, Mom and Gramma.
I am at my wits end..advice???? I'm imagining a starved baby greeting Mom at the door at night then keeping her awake all night feeding!