Received Saturday, December 20, 2008
I am sure I am going to get flamed but here goes. I am a career nanny and have been so for the last 7 years. I had a position (live-in) for over a year with a wonderful family in Manhattan. It was with a wonderful baby boy who was 8 weeks when I started. It was full-time and very long hours but they compensated for over-time, gave me full benefits, on the books, etc. The parents were a nice couple who worked very long hours, he worked in finance and she was in a residency program to be a radiologist. There were many days where they didn't even see him! I would be the person to get him from his crib and usually the one to put him to bed. I bathed him, fed him, set up nap and feeding schedules, introduced new foods, cooked (once he was ready for solids), etc.
I was there, like I said, for over a year and then one day in mid September it happened. I worked a regular day and the Dad got home about 5pm. We chatted for awhile and things were fine. He went into his room to change and came back with a grim look on his face. He told me with a shaky voice that his wife's mother was coming to live with them because she decided to divorce her husband (she resided in Texas) and they would no longer need me. I was in complete shock and of course my first question was, what did I do wrong?? I started crying and he assured me that it was nothing I did, and this is just the situation. They thought long and hard about trying to keep me but with her moving in (into MY room), they just didn't need me. They also told me she was arriving THAT coming monday. So starting monday, I was laid off. I started to cry. He assured me that they appreciated everything I did for the last year and that they would give me wonderful references and that they thought of me like family. They paid me 10 weeks severance pay. That was really generous of them, I know. I asked why they didn't tell me sooner and he said they kept trying but it was too upsetting. He actually got a little teary eyed also. The mother got home in a little while and we all hugged, cried and talked about things and it was decided I would come and get my stuff that weekend or during the week, which I did.
Its been 3 months and I am basically still as devastated as I was that day. I miss the baby so much. I feel like they should have given me some warning. I know they gave me great severance pay. Its just I spent so much time with him I guess I got too attached. I actually will have dreams that I am still working there or I am holding the baby or we are at the playground. We said that we would keep in touch but I haven't seen them for 3 months. I am still so sad and I feel like its affecting my life. I got a new position but I am just not happy. I keep comparing it to my other job. The weird thing is, I was at positions for so much longer than this one but I got so attached to this one baby. I didn't know it at the time, but I know now! I feel like there is more to the story and I feel like I did something wrong. I just don't know how to get over it. I guess I will in time. I know that if I were reading this about someone else my first reaction would be that this OP is crazy and shouldn't be nannying if she gets soo attached. I am not crazy. I just miss them a lot.