Received Saturday, November 21, 2009
Major major problem here. I have made a huge mess. I stay at home and take care of 2 young boys. The father is home, too. He is a really good hands on Dad, he is only home because his work allows him a flexible schedule. He is in and out all of the time. I have gotten close to him as I worked for them for almost ten months. In the beginning they seemed happy, and later on I realized they were less than happy and still later, it became apparent that they were miserable. The source of the misery was in my estimation the mother of the children. She is a constant complainer, a control freak and emotionally abusive. She is also very financially controlling. She makes more money than her husband. His job is the kind of job one gets not for the money and hers is the kind of job one gets simply to make money. She makes him beg for money. She involves me in the mistreatment of her husband.
She told me she prefers that I do the grocery shopping and she put my name on a credit card of hers. It is a card with her name and my name on it. Well, all these dumb things keep coming up. For example, on Thursday I went to the grocery store and the husband asked me to get some soppresetta (sp) and wheat grass sprouts. I didn't think it was a huge deal. She reviewed the grocery list in front of me, like she does, to make sure I didn't steal. She asked me, "who asked you to buy sopresetta?" The husband answered, "I did, are you going to tell me that is a problem?" She starts screaming at him that he doesn't contribute anything to her life at all and he can buy his own damn lunch. She asked him when the last time it was that he bought diapers for the youngest. He had no answer, so she is calling him worthless and useless and good for nothing. The boys were in the next room, about 20 feet away. Fortunately playing with loud trains, but this situation keeps getting worse. She then lectured me about using her card to get anything she didn't ask for. She also reminded me that my salary is paid for entirely by her.
I don't want to cite other examples because that would give away personal information, but what do I do? Just keep my mouth shut and keep working? I feel bad for the father, but she is my employer and I am so sorry to say, I am starting to grow concerned about my bonus... Help!